“You think because he doesn’t love you that you are worthless. You think that because he doesn’t want you anymore, that he is right – that his judgements and opinions of you are correct.
If he throws you out, then you are a garbage. You think he belongs to you because you want to belong to him.
Don’t. It’s a bad word,’belong’. Especially when you put it with somebody you love. Love shouldn’t be like that.
Did you ever see the way the clouds love the mountain? They circle all around it; sometimes you can’t even see the mountain for the clouds. But you know what? You go up top and what do you see? His head. The clouds never cover the head. His head pokes through, because the clouds let him; they don’t wrap him up. They let him keep his head up high, free, with nothing to hide him or bind him.
You can’t own a human being. You can’t lose what you don’t own.
Suppose you did own him, could you really love somebody who was absolutely nobody without you? You really want something like that? Somebody who falls apart when you walk out the door? You don’t, do you? Neither does he.
You’re turning over your whole life to him. You whole life, girl. And if it means so little to you that you can just give it away, hand it to him, then why should it mean anymore to him?
He can’t value you more than you value yourself.”
– Toni Morrison, Song of Solomon